Monday, October 20, 2008

It's a Mess, it's a Start

I'm unhinged.

Aaron's been out of town more days this month than he's been home. He left yesterday and will be gone the rest of the month.

I know my friends get squeamish when I mention he's gone and I totally respect that but holyfuckingshit, come on, this is ridiculous.

So. Darwin's spent the whole day in jammies because I'm just not up for the fight. I had little to feed myself for lunch so I had tea and almonds. Our bedroom is an ungodly mess, hell the whole house is an ungodly mess. Griffin's upstairs throwing a fit because I sent him to his room. For lying. Over a stupid carrot on the floor. WHY WOULD YOU LIE ABOUT A CARROT ON THE FLOOR? Jesus Christ, get it through your thick skull already - NO LYING. Is it really all that damn difficult?

So... I'm trying to breathe. Trying to find a groove that works for all of us.

Single parenting sucks ass.

19 comments:

LauraJ said...

sucks ass AND donkey's balls!

kristi said...

That does suck. Hang in there! I sent you an inspirational song.

amy h said...

Ugh. You need to make sure those kids get in bed nice and early so you can recharge!

Emy said...

I feel ya! Singled-married parenting sucks.

MichelleB said...

I'm so sorry! It does get better. My kids are old enough now that when my husband's gone, it's a nice little break for me.

Bitterbetty said...

Early Bedtimes and cocktails for you.
Clearly they are exhaused and should go to sleep at 7 pm for the whole rest of the month with the possible exception of Halloween night.

And you should invest in a new bottle of Ouzo.

Andrea said...

That sounds rough! I hope things get better! I hate when my husband works a lot leaving me alone to manage dogs, child and house. It gets stressful.

Rachel said...

Ugh, I feel for you. Travis is only gone a couple of days at a time and I hate it. I can't imagine almost two weeks!

tonkelu said...

Whoa. I realize Aaron doesn't get a lot of say in the matter but, damn, how unfair can you get? Has he, you know, ever considered working elsewhere?

My hat is off to you because I would totally lose my shit if I had to put up with my children day in and day out all by myself.

Bright spot! I'll see you Thursday. You bring the rum. I'll bring the Coke. And you can have all the rum. ;)

Soo said...

hope things get better...why not join the boys and have a pyjama day too, forget the housework!

mommykerrie said...

THANK YOU! i agree. aron's around for a while, but we are always on edge that he'll get the 5-month project out of town. i feel for ya.

Stacy said...

oh man. I use curse words when my hubs plans a boys weekend. Just a weekend! You're much better at this than I. I feel for you and wish you early bedtimes for the rest of the month! :) Maybe the boys won't notice since it gets dark so early!

ComfyMom~Stacey said...

Oh I totally get the lying thing. It's not just the lying, which is bad enough, it's that it is stupid lying. If you are going to lie, at least do it over something significant that will get you into serious trouble, like spilling a bottle of grape juice on the sofa, not a carrot on the floor.

mommymae said...

i feel ya. daddyjay goes to phoenix once a month. it sucks. the worst has been this last month. he went to phoenix twice and the second time drove a car back for his sister, so we lost another 2 days. hard to be a single-married mom to 4 including a 2 month old.

Angelina said...

Oh yeah- bring on the ouzo!

I had some cherry liqueur last night that was really good! (Made it myself) Smoothed out the kinks from the day.

sltbee69 said...

I used to think that I could handle it if my hubby had a job that required him to travel - that it'd be a nice break. Then I read stories like yours and other bloggers and it makes me realize how lucky I am. With this economy it's not like you can demand Aaron to get a different job so he can be home more. I'm sorry it's so rough on you and I only hope that one day you'll look back and realize just how strong of a woman you are for holding down the fort while he's away. ((HUGS))

Katya said...

Ugh. I feel for you. My DH has been on the road for the last year-and-a-half EVERY week. It sucks. It is actually easier to adjust to him being gone all the time (like now) than when he traveled off-and-on. At least now I know I NEVER have help... so I have adjusted my lifestyle, parenting, and expectations. :-)

Crystal said...

I ditto what lauraj said. Ass and donkey balls.

I'm getting ready (can you ever really be ready?) for Hubby's six month buisness trip. Fuck. Me.

~Kat~ said...

ya know... you really shouldn't go around spouting exclamations like "why would you lie about a carrot on the floor" without posting some kind of disclaimer to those of us who make sure that we crack open a fresh beer before we read your posts. I mean, gawd! Red Bridge STINGS through the nose!
So- "cheers" here's hoping you survive the rest of the month, carrot-incident free.